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THE ACTUAL MEANING OF STRENGTH!

As human beings, we all have the strength to face the challenges that we come across in life. But have we ever questioned ourselves what our true weaknesses and strengths are? Sometimes, when we fail to face the situation and succumb to the pressure, we think we are being strong. But in reality we are finding ways to protect/safeguard ourselves. This especially is applicable to sect of people who enable toxic behaviour of their close ones. When we do this, we might actually think we have become immune to others abusive behaviour, but what we are actually doing here is, protecting ourselves and choosing to be in our comfort zone instead of speaking up for ourselves, which is actually our “weakness”.

And also, when we keep venting out our frustration every now and then on our family members and expect them to be strong, in our eyes, we think that people who don’t accept our unreasonable behaviour are weak minded. But we will never muster the courage to actually question/introspect ourselves and closely observe our thought patterns. So the actual strength lies in introspecting ourselves instead of expecting others to be strong by putting up with our unreasonable behaviour.

But quite often, we associate strength with tolerating unreasonable behaviour, emotional abuse, manipulation, staying quiet and smiling through the tears. While smiling through the tears takes great amount of strength and courage, standing up for ourselves and speaking for what’s right is actually an epitome of strength and courage.

Again, it takes immense courage to delve into ourselves and sort out our thoughts,emotions and most importantly, face our Ego! The moment we decide to stop venting our frustration for smallest of the things just to constantly satisfy our ego and stop expecting others to tolerate our abusive behaviour, we become stronger from within.

Actual strength lies in Self awareness. Actual strength is when we refuse to become slave of our ego. Actual strength is when we decide to conduct ourselves in such a way that all the people around us feel good about themselves. Strength is when we decide to create healthy, positive and conducive atmosphere to all the people around us. Strength is when we decide to speak up for what’s right and take a strong initiative to break the unhealthy toxic patterns and become more compassionate and empathetic. Actual Strength lies in delving deeper and drop our toxic traits instead of expecting other to be strong by putting up with our nonsense. Strength is when we decide to watch other grow as individuals instead of trying to control or manipulate them.

Most of the times, what we consider strength in us, will actually be our weakness. Eg: Refusing to speak up for what’s right and choosing to stay in our comfort zone. Obtaining clarity on what our true strengths are and cultivating the habit of breaking toxic patterns and vicious cycle is very much essential for our growth and evolution.

Hope we all realise what our true strengths are and create a stronger, healthier and compassionate atmosphere wherever we go.

Love, light and peace to all.✨❤️🙏

WHY???

Everything seems so perfect from the outside. Happy faces, laughter and joy. But, how can we miss out on the subtle violation of basic rights that takes place on a daily basis? Don’t these very subtle little things create a huge impact someday?

The society that we are currently living in, if we keenly observe we realize that we as a society on the whole, lack very basic level of empathy, understanding and sensitivity! ( Now I am just talking about the society in general. I do agree and believe that there certainly are mature, sensible and responsible people who contribute to the betterment of mankind in every way possible)

Why don’t we understand that everyone’s fighting their own battle? Some are expressed and heard and some are not. So, when we start thinking from others’ perspective, we realize/ understand how it feels to be in their shoes. Having said that, it also becomes our responsibilty not to inflict our pain onto others. We should never try to project the bitterness we have experinced by our past truama onto others. Being sensitive to others’ personal issues while being responsible enough not to take an unduly advantage of our past bitter experiences is the key to living a meaningful life.

Here are few questions that we might have to ask ourselves everyday ( Self-introspection) :

Why don’t we understand that people take their own time and space to progess in their respective lives? Everyone’s journey is different and everyone follow their own path and it’s none of our business to bombard them with personal questions related to their job, career, marriage, pregnancy or the life choices that they make for themselves. Why can’t we stop meddling with others’ personal lives? Why??

Why do we think we are superior to the people younger to us? Why do we think we have authority over them? I do agree, we have to be there to guide them through and show them the right path ( very important) but that doesn’t mean we have the rights to curb their freedom and ability to make decisions for themselves. Scrutinizing them is entirely different from wanting to have control over their lives and making them feel entitled/obligated to us just because we are older to them. Our actual responsibility is to show them the right path and LET THEM BE THEMSELVES. We have to let people bloom and shine in their own way. Why don’t we understand this very basic thing? Why???

Why do we always have to comment on someone else’s physical appearance or judge them for their dressing sense? Why do we always try to instigate our moral superiority when it comes to people and their physical appearance. Everyone’s beautiful/smart in their own way irrespective of their complexion or body shape. Each and every human being is beautiful! Why can’t we just encourage people to accept themselves the way they are and respect their personal choices? Why???

Why don’t we understand that LIFE is not a set of rules and it has to be lived a certain way? We are all here to carve our own path and figure out our lives on our own. Why can’t we be less judgemental and more understanding?

Why can’t we be more sensitive and empathetic towards others’ and their personal issues? Why don’t we realize that we are NOT here to judge or correct people ( unless ofcourse, if they’re being harmful to the society, it becomes our moral responsibility to correct them).

And lastly, life is all about beautiful contradictions. And world is a mixture of people. By gaining an in depth understanding we become more open minded and less judgemental! Human tendencies are always there. But we must know when to speak our mind and when to keep things for ourselves.

I hope we all delve deeper into ourselves and introspect ourselves on a daily basis to create a healthy, positive, open minded and a carefree society.

P.S: I am not perfect either! All the above questions imply to me as well. Constantly working on bettering myself every single day!
These are just a few questions I’ve always had at back of my mind! Just felt these are worth pondering upon and hence decided to share it with y’all.

Love, peace and light💫

WILLINGNESS

The willingness to develop a special bond that doesn’t involve any sort of obligation or expectation, with our beloved ones is one of the finest quality that we could possess.

When we carefully analyze our relationships with others especially with our beloved ones, we realize that most of the times, we take things for granted and end up making decisions on their behalf or assume/expect them to do things in our favour. This happens when we assume that we have the authority or power over them. What we forget here is, the need to give them their space and freedom to make their own choices and decisions.

What we need to understand here is the fact, that every person is an individual and has his/her own characteristic traits and thought process. The tendency of wanting to gain power or control over our loved ones, should be curbed the moment it springs in our head. Unless they are being harmful to society or have chosen the wrong path, we have no right or authority to question their choices and decisions that they make for themselves.

How we make others feel emotionally and mentally matters a lot in a relationship. The person shouldn’t feel the need to make his decision based on our reaction. We shouldn’t make others feel obligated or entitled to behave or do things in a way we want them to! The willingness to accept each and every individual the way they are and respect their life choices and decisions will help us maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship with everybody.

We must be willing to share a bond in the first place. Most of the times we hold back ourselves from bonding with others just because of preconceived notions, opinions or assumptions that we have about them. The ability to think beyond ourselves and accept people just the way they are, requires reconditioning/refinement of our thought process. When we realize this truth and actually come to terms with the fact that we need to have a broader perspective and a healthy approach to all the things, situations and people around us, our life becomes happier and peaceful. And all of this begins from our willingness to make things better for ourselves and for everybody around us.