As human beings, we all have the strength to face the challenges that we come across in life. But have we ever questioned ourselves what our true weaknesses and strengths are? Sometimes, when we fail to face the situation and succumb to the pressure, we think we are being strong. But in reality we are finding ways to protect/safeguard ourselves. This especially is applicable to sect of people who enable toxic behaviour of their close ones. When we do this, we might actually think we have become immune to others abusive behaviour, but what we are actually doing here is, protecting ourselves and choosing to be in our comfort zone instead of speaking up for ourselves, which is actually our “weakness”.
And also, when we keep venting out our frustration every now and then on our family members and expect them to be strong, in our eyes, we think that people who don’t accept our unreasonable behaviour are weak minded. But we will never muster the courage to actually question/introspect ourselves and closely observe our thought patterns. So the actual strength lies in introspecting ourselves instead of expecting others to be strong by putting up with our unreasonable behaviour.
But quite often, we associate strength with tolerating unreasonable behaviour, emotional abuse, manipulation, staying quiet and smiling through the tears. While smiling through the tears takes great amount of strength and courage, standing up for ourselves and speaking for what’s right is actually an epitome of strength and courage.
Again, it takes immense courage to delve into ourselves and sort out our thoughts,emotions and most importantly, face our Ego! The moment we decide to stop venting our frustration for smallest of the things just to constantly satisfy our ego and stop expecting others to tolerate our abusive behaviour, we become stronger from within.
Actual strength lies in Self awareness. Actual strength is when we refuse to become slave of our ego. Actual strength is when we decide to conduct ourselves in such a way that all the people around us feel good about themselves. Strength is when we decide to create healthy, positive and conducive atmosphere to all the people around us. Strength is when we decide to speak up for what’s right and take a strong initiative to break the unhealthy toxic patterns and become more compassionate and empathetic. Actual Strength lies in delving deeper and drop our toxic traits instead of expecting other to be strong by putting up with our nonsense. Strength is when we decide to watch other grow as individuals instead of trying to control or manipulate them.
Most of the times, what we consider strength in us, will actually be our weakness. Eg: Refusing to speak up for what’s right and choosing to stay in our comfort zone. Obtaining clarity on what our true strengths are and cultivating the habit of breaking toxic patterns and vicious cycle is very much essential for our growth and evolution.
Hope we all realise what our true strengths are and create a stronger, healthier and compassionate atmosphere wherever we go.
Love, light and peace to all.✨❤️🙏