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THE ACTUAL MEANING OF STRENGTH!

As human beings, we all have the strength to face the challenges that we come across in life. But have we ever questioned ourselves what our true weaknesses and strengths are? Sometimes, when we fail to face the situation and succumb to the pressure, we think we are being strong. But in reality we are finding ways to protect/safeguard ourselves. This especially is applicable to sect of people who enable toxic behaviour of their close ones. When we do this, we might actually think we have become immune to others abusive behaviour, but what we are actually doing here is, protecting ourselves and choosing to be in our comfort zone instead of speaking up for ourselves, which is actually our “weakness”.

And also, when we keep venting out our frustration every now and then on our family members and expect them to be strong, in our eyes, we think that people who don’t accept our unreasonable behaviour are weak minded. But we will never muster the courage to actually question/introspect ourselves and closely observe our thought patterns. So the actual strength lies in introspecting ourselves instead of expecting others to be strong by putting up with our unreasonable behaviour.

But quite often, we associate strength with tolerating unreasonable behaviour, emotional abuse, manipulation, staying quiet and smiling through the tears. While smiling through the tears takes great amount of strength and courage, standing up for ourselves and speaking for what’s right is actually an epitome of strength and courage.

Again, it takes immense courage to delve into ourselves and sort out our thoughts,emotions and most importantly, face our Ego! The moment we decide to stop venting our frustration for smallest of the things just to constantly satisfy our ego and stop expecting others to tolerate our abusive behaviour, we become stronger from within.

Actual strength lies in Self awareness. Actual strength is when we refuse to become slave of our ego. Actual strength is when we decide to conduct ourselves in such a way that all the people around us feel good about themselves. Strength is when we decide to create healthy, positive and conducive atmosphere to all the people around us. Strength is when we decide to speak up for what’s right and take a strong initiative to break the unhealthy toxic patterns and become more compassionate and empathetic. Actual Strength lies in delving deeper and drop our toxic traits instead of expecting other to be strong by putting up with our nonsense. Strength is when we decide to watch other grow as individuals instead of trying to control or manipulate them.

Most of the times, what we consider strength in us, will actually be our weakness. Eg: Refusing to speak up for what’s right and choosing to stay in our comfort zone. Obtaining clarity on what our true strengths are and cultivating the habit of breaking toxic patterns and vicious cycle is very much essential for our growth and evolution.

Hope we all realise what our true strengths are and create a stronger, healthier and compassionate atmosphere wherever we go.

Love, light and peace to all.✨❤️🙏

WHY???

Everything seems so perfect from the outside. Happy faces, laughter and joy. But, how can we miss out on the subtle violation of basic rights that takes place on a daily basis? Don’t these very subtle little things create a huge impact someday?

The society that we are currently living in, if we keenly observe we realize that we as a society on the whole, lack very basic level of empathy, understanding and sensitivity! ( Now I am just talking about the society in general. I do agree and believe that there certainly are mature, sensible and responsible people who contribute to the betterment of mankind in every way possible)

Why don’t we understand that everyone’s fighting their own battle? Some are expressed and heard and some are not. So, when we start thinking from others’ perspective, we realize/ understand how it feels to be in their shoes. Having said that, it also becomes our responsibilty not to inflict our pain onto others. We should never try to project the bitterness we have experinced by our past truama onto others. Being sensitive to others’ personal issues while being responsible enough not to take an unduly advantage of our past bitter experiences is the key to living a meaningful life.

Here are few questions that we might have to ask ourselves everyday ( Self-introspection) :

Why don’t we understand that people take their own time and space to progess in their respective lives? Everyone’s journey is different and everyone follow their own path and it’s none of our business to bombard them with personal questions related to their job, career, marriage, pregnancy or the life choices that they make for themselves. Why can’t we stop meddling with others’ personal lives? Why??

Why do we think we are superior to the people younger to us? Why do we think we have authority over them? I do agree, we have to be there to guide them through and show them the right path ( very important) but that doesn’t mean we have the rights to curb their freedom and ability to make decisions for themselves. Scrutinizing them is entirely different from wanting to have control over their lives and making them feel entitled/obligated to us just because we are older to them. Our actual responsibility is to show them the right path and LET THEM BE THEMSELVES. We have to let people bloom and shine in their own way. Why don’t we understand this very basic thing? Why???

Why do we always have to comment on someone else’s physical appearance or judge them for their dressing sense? Why do we always try to instigate our moral superiority when it comes to people and their physical appearance. Everyone’s beautiful/smart in their own way irrespective of their complexion or body shape. Each and every human being is beautiful! Why can’t we just encourage people to accept themselves the way they are and respect their personal choices? Why???

Why don’t we understand that LIFE is not a set of rules and it has to be lived a certain way? We are all here to carve our own path and figure out our lives on our own. Why can’t we be less judgemental and more understanding?

Why can’t we be more sensitive and empathetic towards others’ and their personal issues? Why don’t we realize that we are NOT here to judge or correct people ( unless ofcourse, if they’re being harmful to the society, it becomes our moral responsibility to correct them).

And lastly, life is all about beautiful contradictions. And world is a mixture of people. By gaining an in depth understanding we become more open minded and less judgemental! Human tendencies are always there. But we must know when to speak our mind and when to keep things for ourselves.

I hope we all delve deeper into ourselves and introspect ourselves on a daily basis to create a healthy, positive, open minded and a carefree society.

P.S: I am not perfect either! All the above questions imply to me as well. Constantly working on bettering myself every single day!
These are just a few questions I’ve always had at back of my mind! Just felt these are worth pondering upon and hence decided to share it with y’all.

Love, peace and light💫

OUR OUTER WORLD IS THE REFLECTION OF OUR INNER REALITY.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. To change ...

Everything that’s happening around us is the reflection of what’s happening within us. Our thought processes, our vibratory levels and the energies that we give out, collectively creates our outer reality.

What makes us behave the way we do?

When we lack Self-awareness, we constantly seek answers, pleasures, gratification and energy supply from external resources. This happens when we lack the courage to look within ourselves and fail to understand what’s happening within us – this could be because of our ego, deeply embedded insecurities or just the fact that seeking energy supply from others constantly satisfies our ego and we find this so comforting that we don’t actually take the responsibility to introspect/scrutinize ourselves.

Constant need to satisfy our ego, instant gratification, superiority complex, need to control others by being highly manipulative constitutes to narcissistic qualities and emotional immaturity.

Being aware of our own thoughts, emotions and feelings and realising the fact that we are none of the above but just beings of love makes us more empathetic and emotionally stable.

The key difference between these two sect of people: Energy drainers and Empaths is that the former are incapable of looking within themselves and overcome their insecurities, fears and ego. The latter has the courage to look within and emerge as better version of themselves.

Our behaviour, actions and words should never cause discomfort to anyone and instead should make them feel good about themselves. When we are internally focused and start working on ourselves, we not only better ourselves but also help people around us. The way we carry ourselves is very important because it deeply affects the people closely associated with us. So it becomes our responsibility to conduct ourselves in such a way that, it brings out the best in everyone!

Maturity is when we hold ourselves accountable for our actions and start working on ourselves consciously! Real inner transformation happens only when we actually re-wire our thought process. Merely saying that I’m going to change will take us nowhere. Repetitive patterns say a lot about a person’s intentions and personality. When we give up our ulterior motives and purify our thoughts and actions we create a healthier life and in turn uplift the lives of all the people around us!

So, let’s stop operating from our identity self (ego) and start moving towards our Higher self and make lives easier and peaceful for ourselves and all the people around us.

The reason why the statement “people around us” has been emphasized throughout this article is because it is such a basic thing to understand and value others feelings and emotions and yet we tend to forget/ignore it.

The very purpose of our lives is to uplift ourselves and others. Let our inner space be filled with pure unconditional love and positivity. Let’s all create positive and peaceful lives for ourselves and for OTHERS.

Love, light and peace to all.